“I don’t know the right people.”
It’s the sentence we hear most often from ambitious professionals feeling stuck. They want more — a promotion, a pivot, or a purpose-driven leap — but don’t know who can help get them there.
Here’s the truth: Most people don’t have a people problem.
They have an alignment problem.
You don’t need more conversations. You need the right ones.
Start here:
Where are you going?
And who’s already living in that future?
If you’re chasing a promotion, look inside your company. Who’s two or three steps ahead? Whose leadership style makes you think, I’d follow them?
Don’t wait for permission. Reach out. Ask how they think, how they lead, and how they navigated the step you’re facing now. Their insight could be the unlock you need.
Or reconnect with people who already believe in you — former managers, clients, collaborators. A simple, thoughtful message like:
“I’m stepping into something new and really value your perspective. Is there anyone you think I should be speaking to?”
Trust travels fastest through warm relationships.
If you’re building something — a business, consultancy, or creative shift — the same applies. Think beyond customers or investors. Think collaborators. Mentors. People with skills that stretch you. People who’ve done this before and are generous with what they’ve learned.
Worried it’s been too long since you last spoke? Reach out anyway. The key is to stop waiting until you’re “ready.” Build relationships before you need them.
If you’re in a season of reinvention, you need mirrors — people who’ve walked this road and can reflect what’s possible on the other side.
And in all of this, there’s one question that matters:
What are you offering in return?
The best connections aren’t about asking. They’re about giving. Try:
Sharing an insight or idea that relates to their work
Making a connection that helps them
Reflecting clearly on the impact their work has had on you
Leaving a comment or DM that adds genuine value
This is what generosity looks like in networking. And it’s how transformational relationships begin.
Final thought?
Be unattached to the outcome.
Show up with humility, curiosity, and clarity about where you’re headed.
Doors open when you’re aligned — not just with people, but with purpose.
